Imagine waking up to an image of Deepika Padukone carrying around Ranveer Singh’s shoes at an event. Sure, the picture will break the internet, but would you laud the act as #wifegoals, or would you call it regressive? Or even the picture of Anand Ahuja tying Sonam Kapoor Ahuja’s shoelaces in public – imagine if that were to be reversed? Would the headlines still glorify it?
Considering both you and I believe in the equality of two parties in a relationship, I would like to clarify, that one person’s ‘subservience’ can never be another person’s ‘act of glory’. If it is, then there’s something intrinsically wrong in our idea of equality.
I remember reading about Ranveer saying he wouldn’t mind taking Deepika’s last-name, after the two got married in November last year. A quote totally headline-worthy, since in an ordinary world, a man taking the last name of his wife is not usually the case – and celebrities defying norms is something we all love to see. In the same world, however, a Sonam Kapoor was also called a ‘fake feminist’ for having adopted her husband’s last name. So, which side are we actually taking here?
Also, it’s been almost four months since Ranveer made the statement; his last name, however, continues to remain the same. Not that I’ve got a problem with that – because at the end of the day, it is all a matter of choice.
Exactly how Shah Rukh’s decision to put the heroine’s name before his own in the opening credits, was simply a personal gesture towards the leading ladies of his films. Whether it really made any difference to the aforementioned ladies, in terms of career-growth or pay-gap, is something only they would know. But boy, did the act work wonders for Shah Rukh’s PR! Given that he made the announcement through an advertisement for a leading tea brand. Not to mention, the ad was a big hit too.
So why are these pictures of Ranveer and Anand being labelled as the ultimate acts of love? Is it because the two men in question are famous people, doing things ordinary men may or may not do? Or is it our very own skewed notion of equality exalting an act that’s actually very subjective and intimate?
Just like a husband’s act of cooking a meal for his wife on Women’s Day, or taking care of the baby while she catches some sleep need not be celebrated. Because it’s as basic as a woman doing the same things for her husband and child.
Therefore, Ranveer carrying Deepika’s heels, or Anand tying Sonam’s shoelaces do not make them ideal couples. What makes both happy couples is treating each other as equals. Because at the end of the day, managing your partner’s shoes only means anything, if you’re also stepping into them when required.