In a world that thrives on troll culture, the last thing we need is women ridiculing women for the choices they make. Whether she aspires to become a homemaker, or opts to leave her child at home to go out and work; flaunts that neckline of hers or wears every symbol that represents her marital status – as long as she is doing it out of her own will, she doesn’t need your opinion.
For years in a row, on the day of Karwa Chauth, I have woken up to berating articles on the idea of fasting all day for a man, to ‘increase his lifespan’. Well, the thought seems unfathomable, I agree. But instead of questioning the very design behind this one-day ‘life-saving’ event, I mostly come across people asking ‘what about the woman’s lifespan? Why isn’t anyone fasting for her?’ As if any kind of fasting by anyone can help anyone live longer. So what is the issue we’re really trying to address here?
Those who do not believe in the entire act that Karwa Chauth is, may say that the ritual involves putting a man on a pedestal, as if he were God – but the woman who does decide to fast for her partner might not be looking at it that way. She might be looking at him as an equal partner, whom she is in love with, and wants to have an evening of recreation with. And just because her idea of recreation is not the same as anyone else’s, it does not make her ‘oppressed’.
All the scoff and scorn towards women, especially by women makes tangible, the ‘society’ that women have anyway been raised to stay wary of. So just do your own thing and let others do what they want, and accept people for what they are. Shaming women who fast on Karwa Chauth is as bad as judging them for not getting married because both these decisions, just like the many mentioned right in the beginning, are personal. And you cannot fight one evil by virtue of promoting another.