As an emotion, or an expression everything negative gets stacked in a more significant way than when it concerns the positives. Anger, hatred, criticism all come easy because they are one-dimensional emotions – the emotion festers in you and you alone without any solution or any positive reinforcement. Attuning your default setting to these personality dilutions is forever an easier way out than dealing with things, accepting them, moving on with them, embracing the residue if at all. Forgiveness is that residue. After a wave of things at tug at your gut and your heart, what is left is a void that needs to be filled with compassion and sympathy. Easier said than done? Always. But does that mean it shouldn’t be done? Entirely false. Holding onto grudges always and forever is mostly uneasy for the person who is experiencing that feeling of unbecoming emotions. What do we do with all the grudges that we keep with us? Where does this end? When should we stop and take note? Should we let these grudges be, or should we release ourselves from their constant headiness? Forgiveness is an attribute talked about so fervently, but acted upon so furtively. Why are we scared of forgiving? Is it because we feel our vulnerability will be showcased, rendering us weak? Is it because we feel people will take advantage of us? Or is it because the raw ambition of holding onto a grudge makes us feel like we have something over the head of another. Isn’t that a futile exercise that we all partake in?
Forgiving someone is powerful. Forgiving someone is an act of maturity. Forgiving someone is a tool to take the path less travelled, but a path infinitely more fulfilling. There’s a lot that can come from moving on and letting go. There’s nothing that comes out of sitting in the middle of pessimistic, defeatist, obstructive thoughts. The only person who is harmed by the sheer bleak nature of this is your ownself. Being negative is actually showing one’s weakness. So read these powerful and empowering lines, let go off that bickering, let go off that self-deprecation – for forgiving your own self is an even harder thing to go; learn to know when to move away from something that bothers you. Otherwise the world will be fatalistic, and you will be holding the overburdened trigger.
1. “Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.” ― Oscar Wilde
2. “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” ― Mahatma Gandhi,
3. “An eye for an eye, and the whole world would be blind.”― Kahlil Gibran
4. “It is surely better to pardon too much, than to condemn too much.” ― George Eliot
5. “People find it far easier to forgive others for being wrong than being right” – J.K. Rowling
6. “When we love rightly we know that the healthy, loving response to cruelty and abuse is putting ourselves out of harm’s way ” – Bell Hooks