One of the most stereotyped relationships humankind has ever witnessed is that of an individual who conforms to a wedlock, with the family of the person they choose to bind in holy matrimony with. Basically, dealing with in-laws can, at times, get rocky, but there’s always a way to smoothen it.
Just like in any other relationship, communication is the key to resolving any issues you may have with your in-laws. It is true that having a conversation with your partner’s parents may not be as effortless as having one with your own, but if you express your feelings to them on a regular basis, then getting to know each other will become a much smoother process.
You’ve lived a certain way for at least over two decades – and so have your in-laws, so expectations from a stranger, who has all of sudden become family, are high on both sides. Therefore, understanding that they’re a different generation, who’ve seen dealt with different situations, and have their own issues, can make your life simpler.
Respond, Don’t React
If your in-laws have said something or behaved in a way you’re not okay with, take your time to absorb it, and respond with dignity. Reactions lead to bickering, and saying something you regret later can cost you your peace of mind. They are, after all, your partner’s parents – and a resentful relationship with them, is perhaps something you’d want to avoid having.
Not everything one says or does deserves a place in your thoughts. Save the best, leave the rest. Your in-laws, just like you, are humans who make mistakes, and sometimes, just like you, they might not mean what they say. So, for the sake of your own sanity, forgive and move on. Who knows, they might just follow suit, and then you can all be happy!
Families are but human associations, which are very easy to break and equally difficult to build. Understanding dynamics of certain relationships, especially when you’re newly adulting, can get a little complex, but always remember that relationships are a creation of attitude – if you choose to remain positive, then no amount of negativity can affect you.